Can’t get it up
“I’m just trying to enjoy the non sex that we’re having” – Chris Rock in I Think I Love My Wife
No not him, me; I can’t get it up. I haven’t had a sexually desirous thought or feeling in months now. Initially it was just a problem 2 weeks out of the month. Because the week before my cycle I’d be a raging hormonal rabbit, and then I don’t have a ‘real’ cycle so I was still scratching that itch those few days too. But over the past two months, even that’s gone away. We’re still having sex, just not as much as before. I’m tired, we don’t have sex; he’s tired, we don’t have sex. So that works out well but I know the man wants it, we used to do it like 5 times a week. So I still give it to him as often as I can bring myself to. And when we do, I enjoy it. A Lot. It’s still good, I just don’t have that sexual craving for it like before.
I talked to my girl about it because she went through a similar issue not long ago and she summed it up for me quite easily. Stress. Which makes perfect sense because my new job has had me ULTRA stressed. Plus the fact that all this really started back when I found out about the divorce, so the combination of all that equals zero sex drive.
The prescription for the solution: HotPlants for Her for increasing sexual libido and St Johns Wart to help decrease stress. My girl said that it took a few weeks before she really started seeing results. I noticed a difference after about 5 days. That Saturday morning, he kissed me on my neck and for the first time in months and made me feel hot; it actually surprised me, so I kept walking up to him asking him to do it again. He didn’t figure out til the next morning why I was doing that…lol That night we had some great sex that I actually wanted. Sunday morning I woke up ready to go again. And we did. Three times! So I have to say it is working and hopefully I’ll be myself again soon. I’ve realized there’s a difference between knowing you have good sex or desiring and feeling the great sex.
